Let’s talk about sex, shall we?

Friday, March 13 2015

During pregnancy you may find that this is the most aroused you have ever been in your relationship. Your hormones are accelerating, your estrogen levels are high, blood is flowing to your pelvic area, you have that beautiful pregnancy glow, your breasts are large and sensitive, and your body has gorgeous curves. You may feel this way all the way up until you deliver, and unless otherwise advised by your doctor, sex during pregnancy can be a new, liberating and exciting thing for both you, and your partner. Although some positions may no longer work with your beautiful belly, this is the time to try out new positions, get creative, and explore this new experience.


Here are some tips and the best sex positions during pregnancy, according to fitpregnancy.com


If fears about ‘doing it’ are stressing you out, here’s what you need to know. Sex can still be comfortable but your old standby missionary position for intercourse may not work for you now. Instead, try these options:


Spooning: Lie side by side with him behind you. This makes for more shallow penetration.

You on top: There’s no pressure on your belly, and you can control the speed and depth of penetration.

Side of the bed: You lie on your back on the edge of the bed with your knees bent and feet on the edge. He stands facing you. It’s like classic missionary, but he won’t be resting his body weight on you.

Living room love: Kneel on a couch with your belly facing the back of it; use your arms for support. He penetrates from behind.

You will have sex again after the baby comes just be aware that with the sudden drop of estrogen after delivery, your libido can plummet and the lining of your vagina thins out, making intercourse feel like you’re losing your virginity all over again. This can be particularly true if you’re breastfeeding.


Most dctors recommend that you wait six weeks until after giving birth (even for oral sex). The goals are to allow your body to heal, avoid infection and deal with any psychological or emotional issues you and your partner may be feeling. When you do venture back, it’s important to make your partner aware that you may need plenty of foreplay (and possibly lubrication). Taking care of the baby for you whenever possible so that you can nap couldn’t hurt, either!


Suzanne Toth